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Mental health

A girl sits in the corner of her bathroom curled up, crying uncontrollably. She looks at her trembling hands and begins to run them through her hair gripping as she starts screaming. Her mind is telling her she’s all alone, despite the surrounding affections and support of her family and friends. The emotions and sensations are too strong to withstand. She tries to voice out-loud what’s wrong but it doesn’t sound right. Her memories are even in question as dreams and reality commingle in a dance that leaves her head spinning worse than before. This is a spiraling fall that maybe she can snap out of. Sometimes people just can’t.
What if this were a man? Let’s think for a second. The very same fate and reality can befall a man too. Does that make him less of a man? Does that make him weak? Maybe his situation isn’t as severe as the girl above. Maybe he has doubts and reservations in his mind and feels he has no one he can turn to for advice. Society has painted the bearded man in a light that portrays him in an “ALL THINGS MAN” ideology. Toxic masculinity is very real. Pressure to live up to what society sees as a man can be daunting, and wear thin on one’s psyche. In this day and age there is a real issue with what identifies a man Into a strong representation of what people see or someone that can’t stack up – kind of like a lumber jack versus an accountant. A man has next to no emotion. He’s logical and calculating. A man can take feelings and bury them so he’s unphased by them. He’s fearless and strong. He’s a protector, a fighter, and a fierce lover. A man is defined by his physical prowess, look, and mental capacity as well as condition.
What is mental health? Mental health encompasses our psychological, emotional, and social well-being. It affects how we think, feel and act. Imagine being a prisoner in your own mind. Almost as if two people occupied the same body. You question your every thought. What is reality and what is fabricated? Knowing full well the person you once were, but not being able to act like you used to is a personal Hell. This isn’t a campfire horror story, there are people living this turmoil this very moment. It may even be a someone close to you or a loved one.
This kind of sickness effects everyone it comes in contact with. Sometimes you can’t see the signs. Little changes in a person’s behavior or mood. On the other hand, you may see the person you’ve known all your life deteriorate before your eyes. There’s little you can do in this position except cope as best you can and try to understand what that person may be going through. It can be emotionally and physically draining dealing with someone that used to be sharp witted but now sometimes doesn’t remember who you are or what they had just said. A worse scenario is an adult that is now dependent on their loved ones because their mind is like a child’s.
Mental health is vital in every aspect of our lives. It helps us determine how we make decisions, interact and relate with others as well as handling stressful situations. Certain factors can trigger problems such as family heredity or even a traumatic experience. It’s important to be aware of early warning signs of someone that may be experiencing problems. Help is available in certain cases especially if caught early enough. If you are a person that is dealing with someone in this condition, you’re not alone. Don’t hesitate to reach out and talk about the situation. Venting is healthy and keeping those emotions and feelings inside can and will affect your own mental health as well.
Gentlemen, at the end of the day we are human. We are men and we are prone to mistakes. We are Bearded Villains and part of a global brotherhood. We have to be able to help each other and ourselves before we help others. We are also entitled to have feelings and emotions and we need not fear to be judged in reaching out and expressing or exploring something that bothers us on WHATEVER level it may be. A molehill of a problem to one person may be an all consuming mountain to another. You may have the answers to help out a brother. Brothers, it doesn’t make us less of a man to reach out and let a Brother know you need help. It doesn’t have to feel like an obligation to talk to someone specific. You may not have that kind of relationship with that guy, but you may with a few other guys. Talk to someone you are comfortable with. Don’t hesitate because you think you don’t have someone to turn to. You ALWAYS have the support of your Brothers. WE are a FAMILY. We grow together and we struggle together, but it’s done TOGETHER.
Just as we strive to be better physically by going to the gym and eating healthy, we should not neglect our own mental wellness. It’s integrated in everything we do. It’s everything we say, how we react and how we deal with people. Actively seek help if you need it. Stay positive in situations. See if you can develop coping skills for times that may weigh heavy on you. You CAN ask for help or vent. Leaving yourself to your own thoughts could cause more harm than good. Connect with people. All of us should make it our missions to be our brother’s and sister’s keepers. This means that it falls on us to ask the questions and give those people that may have reservations the opportunity to express their thoughts, emotions, and problems. We do what we can, when we can for ourselves, our families, and friends. After all, we’re all on this rock called earth living lives – together.